Bare necessities of Happiness


 When I literally created my own happiness. (I’m a chocoholic πŸ™‹πŸΎ)

Happiness is such a simple thing, yet we all struggle to find it, and sometimes we try to find it in all the wrong places. Just like any other emotions like sadness and fear, I personally believe that happiness is within our control. Sometimes I find myself feeling sad for no reason, and I start feeding that emotion with sad thoughts from when I was disappointed, when I disappointed myself, when I’ve let myself and my loved ones down etc. It’s sad then to think that I cannot seem to apply the same method when I feel elated, even if it’s only momentary. We have all chased happiness at some point, but I’ve come to discover that happiness isn’t a thing to be searched for; it is created, and true happiness comes from within. When I get a moment to be happy, I should open that box of happy memories to make that state of mind last longer. Not just memories, I should also CREATE new memories of happiness. As I was struggling to sleep at 3 in the morning (the struggle is real for university students), a lot of thoughts came to mind, and God knows I need this message more than anyone, so I decided to share them. 

How to be happy 101

1. it’s not always about you 

~ Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away and expect people to be consistent with the way they treat you or behave around you. But if you take a moment to step back and look at the bigger picture, you may realise that they also need YOU to do the same for them. The world doesn’t revolve around you, so of course once in a while you’ll be disappointed. That doesn’t make you less important, though ☝🏾️

2. if you can’t make yourself happy, who should?

~ Be so comfortable in your own presence that you don’t mind being alone. Try spending some time enjoying your own company before trying to impose yourself on someone else. Think you’re “too boring” alone? Well then who the heck do you want to be bored with you? πŸ‘€πŸ€”

3. not everyone will like you, but that’s ok

~ You may be an amazing person and you may do great things for people, but for some it will never be enough. It’s not that you’re a horrible person or anything. They just don’t like you, that’s all. You can even bring the moon down for them and bend over backwards but they still won’t like you. But that’s ok. Being “liked” shouldn’t be your ultimate goal in life πŸ’πŸΎ

4. don’t be a people pleaser

~ It’s so easy to fall into the trap of “popularity” or being liked. But the truth is, you can never please everyone. So when you spread yourself too thin trying to be there for every single person in your life – acquaintances or friends, YOU end up being miserable. Choose yourself each dayπŸ’…πŸΎ

5. don’t base your happiness on someone else’s validation

~ Let’s be honest, it’s nice to know someone thinks the world of us, looks up to us or just admires who we are. On Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, compliments and confidence boost you upwards and get you closer to attaining self actualisation. However, don’t rely solely on others to make you happy or to tell you how fabulous you are. A $100 note doesn’t lose its value simply because it wasn’t enough to buy a $500 dress, or maybe it’s crumpled. It’s still $100 πŸ’πŸΎ

6. Don’t be afraid to express yourself

~ Sometimes we constrain ourselves from fully expressing our emotions. We may suppress tears, laughter, etc which really ruins the whole happiness process for us. Sometimes I care too much what people are gonna think. Then I wake up one day and realise life is too short to be too serious and worry about people (80% of whom quite frankly don’t affect my life in any way). That’s precisely why I’m goofy and “weird” but in being so, I remind myself to be content being alone, an individual and not part of some group-think. Be unique, there’s only one of you and don’t deprive the world of the opportunity to experience your awesomeness because that would be a damn shame! πŸ‘ŠπŸΎ

7. Have an opinion

~ It’s so easy to follow the crowd and get sucked into a hype, that you forget who you really are and what you truly want. Don’t be stuck in an endless cycle of an identity crisis in a desperate attempt to fit in. It’s ok to think differently. It’s ok to see things in a different way. It’s 100% ok to have your own personal opinion! You’re NOT A MINION ☝🏾️

8. Do random nice things for others

~ When you are kind to people and see them smile, there’s an inexplicable sensation that evades your being. To know that someone is happy because of you, could create such joy, peace and happiness in your soul. Try it once in a while without telling the whole world about it. The best good deeds are done in secret when no one is there to praise you

The main message is: happiness comes from within. So for you to be happy, you have to create your own happiness. You can’t make others make you happy. You can’t wait for others to make you happy. Be yourself and do the things that make you feel alive, and then you’ll truly be happy. When you reach that stage, you won’t find it too difficult to cope with negative emotions because you’ll know that you are capable of getting yourself out of that state of mind. Enjoy the rest of your week πŸ˜‰




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